So I feel like Thanksgiving marks the beginning of the end of the year, and for some, a tough one. This past year for me has been full of ups and downs. I can look back and say the distance (both physically and emotionally) from my daughter has been something that is a constant source of pain, to some degree, every day. There are things I wanted to accomplish personally & financially that I failed to do. Some of the relationships I had with close friends suffered. Some to the point that they no longer exist. I witnessed my parents lose a close friend to cancer and felt helpless in the fact that I couldn't lessen the pain they experienced going through losing yet another person they cared for to cancer. I feel like if I chose to concentrate on these, and a few other things, then it would be hard to even drag my bag of bones out of bed in the morning to take a run at the world.
Life is about perspective, and you are the only person that can choose the perspective you have in your own life. Negativity is almost like a drug. It seems once a person gets on board with making the choice to let negativity enter their life, then they have a uphill battle to get where they once again can concentrate on things that are, in fact, positive in their life, and things they need to be thankful for. I'm guilty of it, letting myself slip, and start looking at things through shades of negativity. I think we all do it from time to time, but you have to consciously make the decision to stop, and instead, remind yourself of the good you have around you. If you think you have nothing good to be thankful for, I assure you that you do. Some families are once more making it through holidays having lost a loved one, or having a loved one locked up that they can't physically touch. Some have lost jobs and income they depended on. Some are in such a bad state with family and friends that they will spend the holiday season alone. As for me? Instead of being sad over the situation with my daughter, well I'm thankful for the memories I have of the times I have spent with her. And I'm thankful my son is living with me and he and I had the chance to make memories I'll remember with a smile on my face for as long as I'm alive. The things I didn't accomplish over the past year that I had set goals to? Well, they have now just become fuel for a fire to take another run at them this upcoming year. And while seeing my parents go through difficult times with the predicaments of others, instead of letting that depress me I choose to be thankful for the fact that I have a relationship with them and the fact my mother kicked breast cancer square in the nuts, and is the epitome of a "survivor." And while I do miss some of the people who's relationship I lost this past year (a couple of them I miss incredibly), I am thankful that I do have smile on my face and a peace in my life because of others who have stepped into my life.
Life is about learning, and part of that journey is learning that no matter how shitty or dark things may seem, if you take a moment or two then we can all find something to be thankful for. And if for some reason you can't, then I do know this. Each and every situation we experience prepares us for the future. Knowing that, I wouldn't choose to not endure some of my difficult times and situations. After all, they made me into the man I am today.
Take care of yourselves and each other. And, as always... GET IT HOW YOU LIVE!!
Tuesday, November 5, 2013
I've been away from the blog for a bit with opening The Chop Shop Barber Company & Shaving Parlor and decided to take a few minutes, sit down, & get some of my thoughts down. It's easy for all of us to get caught up in the crazy of the world, and with the holidays on the horizon it's just going to get busier for us all. So with that time approaching I figured it was time for me to sit down and think about my priorities and check myself.
Man, we all have stressors. We all have a bit of madness, in some sense, around us. We all have moments where frustration invades our bodies on such a level you think you're going to explode. That stuff is going to happen. There's no way around it. As for me, there are times I need to sit and remember that I'm a culmination of all my choices at any given moment. I've made mistakes, and been places I hope you as a person never see. Dark places that changed me as a person. The only beneficial thing is that I made the conscious decision to do things in those moments and change myself for the better, rather then let my environment and situation make me bitter and make my mind use the predicament as a justification for being a bad person. Then I began to become very picky about who I let in my circle. I have standards for those around me, and I don't make concessions in picking people who are in my life. Consequently, that circle is extremely small. So, knowing that my life is about to get even busier with holidays and commitments, I am taking time to remind myself of those I have in my life and I'm thankful for.
My son moved into my home this past Memorial Day, and while we have had a couple of moments that I wish didn't transpire, the time we have spent together overall has been something that I will remember in my last days as being one of the happiest of my life. My parents have supported me in ways that a lot of people never see from their loved ones. They support me and my dreams and have done everything in their power to help me achieve success. I have friends who have chosen to look at me as the person I currently am and not judge me for my actions or decisions of my past. To all of you, you are all my rocks in your own certain ways. You are the ones I hope that respect me for my actions and the things I attempt to do each and every day to be a good father, son, and friend to.
On the flip side of the coin, I have lost people in my life in the past few months. A particular person has made and continues to make poor choices and I know he reads my ramblings here when they post. I'm sorry to keep it real with you brother, actually no I'm not. I miss the person who taught me so much about doing for others. I miss the times we shared working on bikes and laughing about the craziness of the world. I miss seeing a man I respected as a husband and father do what I apparently haven't been able to in having a family of my own. I want you to know bro, since I have no other way to contact you now, if you read this and either now or down the road want to change the decisions you're making, well friend, you know where I am.
Unfortunately, I've also had to make the choice to eliminate others from my life that just weren't healthy. If you find yourself being a pawn in someone's game, I recommend that you take the flame away from that person before they burn you again. You will be a step closer to peace when you do.
So in closing, just be thankful for who you have in your life that's beneficial. The ones who treat you as you treat them, and if that means you configure your circle to be a little smaller, well that's not always a bad thing. And also, make sure the ones you are thankful for know you feel that way. none of us are guaranteed any moment other than the one we are currently in. Make sure they know amigos.
If you're in the Tulsa area (and are a male), come see us at The Chop Shop. We always have a nice cold PBR and will send you out the door with a slick cut that you will be proud to show off.
That's it. You guys try to do something 4TGG, the world needs more of it and all it takes is each of us doing something to benefit those around us.
GET IT HOW YOU LIVE
Posted by Chop at 6:14 AM
Sunday, October 13, 2013
Tulsa has a new, traditional barber shop in mid-town that is now open. My latest project is The Chop Shop Barber Company, located at 6117 E. 21st Street. The space has been totally remodeled and I've brought barbers in that embrace old-school traditions and are truly craftsmen in their trade. These guys view barbering as a lifestyle, and not just a job, and that reflects in the experience they provide each and every client who steps into the shop.
Suavecito. They have pomades, shaving oils and creams, Bay Rum aftershave, etc, etc. etc. Periodically, we'll be offering specials on these (and other) products, and our Facebook page is a great place to keep informed as to what is currently going down in the shop.
Keep your eyes here, or check out our FB page to get the details on our FB page this upcoming week, when I'll be releasing details about our Grand Opening event, which will be held on Oct. 26th.
Until next time.... GET IT HOW YOU LIVE!!!!!
Monday, September 16, 2013
We will be holding a Grand Opening at The Chop Shop, introducing ourselves to the public, giving them a chance to check out the Shop and our concept, and basically just creating a cool vibe for everyone to hang out, have a PBR, and get a glimpse of what is to come, courtesy of The Chop Shop Barber Company. We are looking at October 5th as the day we throw this little shindig, and anyone in the area is invited. Dudes sporting cool, Rockabilly pompadours, or chicks bringing the old-school pin-up look stand a pretty good chance of scoring some free swag from The Shop. We will be carrying Suavecito Pomade and I'd say it's pretty likely I'll be giving one or two jars away for one reason or another... keep that in mind.
So get ready if you're around Tulsa. I have a barber on board who's the right fit, the Shop is coming together quickly, and we're ready to be THE place you come to for all your grooming needs... and a free PBR. And you may wonder what I have up my sleeve next???? Hmmmm... a tattoo shop is a real good place t put your bet on!
GET IT HOW YOU LIVE!!!!!
Tuesday, September 3, 2013
The Chop Shop Barber Company is located at 6117 East 21st, and is currently in the middle of a remodel. What was formerly The Hilltop Barber Shop is being transformed into a man cave where a guy can get a haircut, shave, enjoy a nice cold PBR (on the house), and talk freely with the other dudes without having to be worried about offending those of the opposite sex. A place like your Grandpa went to get looking fresh, and maybe he even took you along. A place where what's said in the Shop, stays in the Shop. Old-school Barber chairs, the smells of bay rum aftershave that bring back those memories of being a kid and walking into a spot you just knew was a man's place, and all the banter that makes a Barber Shop just that... a BARBER SHOP!
So, if you're a guy looking for a conservative business cut, a classic comb over with a hard part, a mohawk, or even a new school pompadour then watch for our big Grand Opening at The Chop Shop Barber Company. This will be the place in T-Town to get all of your grooming needs met... and don't forget a free PBR. You can find the Shop on Facebook and keep up with the progress of the remodel and get updates on when the Grand Opening will be taking place. It will be an event you will definitely want to attend, meet the barbers, and take in the cool stuff we have planned.
So there you have it... big things are going down. Buckle up. This is going to be a seriously fun ride, and I'm not done yet... I've got plans to expand this venture in a direction nobody is expecting!!!!
GET IT HOW YOU LIVE!!!!!
Tuesday, August 13, 2013
Every Sunday from April to October you can find vendors in the Brady Arts District on The Guthrie Green at The Market. If you're trying to track down some locally made jewelry, locally grown produce, art from talented local artists, or some good food from some local food trucks, then you need to be on The Guthrie Green on any of the Sundays in those given months.
Also on Sundays you can catch a free Zumba class during the morning, and starting at 2pm, there's a free concert series taking place. The lawn fills up with people from all walk of life, kids playing in the fountains, and the bands spend the late afternoon providing some of the best free entertainment you can find in Tulsa.
So there it is... we'll be back out there with some good merchandise for you to check out, and get at a deal. If you don't have anything planned, hell even if you do, make some time to get out to the Guthrie Green and support all of the locals who are putting it down and doing their thing. And be sure to stop by our booth... you never know what you may find.
Saturday, August 10, 2013
The 918 Industries gang is set to invade the Market on Guthrie Green tomorrow, 8/11/2013. We'll be at the Market from 10am until 4pm, offering up some great original art pieces (at totally affordable prices), prints of art pieces that are suitable for framing, and 4TGG merchandise. Other vendors will be there as well, offering up everything from produce to live music to clothing to art, and even one vendor who makes wine locally, in Tulsa.
The Market is another reason to get yourself down to the Brady Arts District and check out the scene. A lot of renovations have went on in downtown, and the Arts District is definitely a highlight of the downtown scene. The weather is supposed to be nice, so get you and your friends out to Guthrie Green and support some locals who are doin' their thing. It's good to support local artists, farmers, downtown businesses, and just the scene down there in general.
So there ya have it... come check us out, let us talk to you more about the 4TGG concept and maybe we'll even cut you in on some future concepts we plan on introducing. It's a perfect way to spend a Sunday. Hit the market and then grab a bite at one of the restaurants.
Until next time....
GET IT HOW YOU LIVE